Comments on: Three Months http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/ Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:31:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: Dawn V. http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-13483 Mon, 22 Sep 2008 05:11:17 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-13483 Just wanted you to know that you are all still in our thoughts and prayers often. I love reading your stories about Kevin. You both write so eloquently and vividly that I feel like I knew Kevin better than I actually did. Your words are so touching that the tears just don’t stop as I’m reading. You are amazing people. We wish you much love and happiness.

]]> By: Stephanie http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-6341 Fri, 15 Aug 2008 02:57:36 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-6341 We enjoy going to your website and viewing the pictures and videos of Kevin. I remember always thinking of what an easy-going little guy he was whenever we were around him and how happy you all were together. Your word “gentle” is the perfect word to describe him. Your Kevin will never be forgotten. I think of you all so often. Please know we care so much. I hope you continue to write because it obviously helps you and those around you understand how you and Dawn are feeling. All the questions I have been wondering (what to say, what not to say, etc.)were answered here. Thank you for sharing your deepest emotions with those who care.

]]> By: Aunt Liz http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-5692 Tue, 12 Aug 2008 01:19:30 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-5692 I think of you every day. I do know what you are going through, although we enjoyed many more years with Andrew. We were all there with you in thoughts and prayers during Dawn’s pregnancy and through all of Kevin’s life and experiences. He had a light in him that was very different from most children… Those of us that knew him were blessed by that light.

This past Friday was a difficult day for us, and though five years has passed, the pain of the loss has not faded. Counting is part of it…. Remembering is all of it. I can tell you that, from our experience, the deep ache you feel in your stomache and heart will not lessen, but will evenutually not be felt so often, so intensely. You have elequently expressed your curiosity of the future Kevin never knew or you never knew of him. He will always be a part of you, just as you were a part of him.

I am envious of your ability to share so openly and uninhibited – or so it seems by your writing – and so thankful that you can. We really look forward to your updates and always will be here to share with you and support your family – all family members included! We love you!

]]> By: Alice http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-5312 Fri, 08 Aug 2008 12:52:39 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-5312 Thanks for the update. What terrific pics!

It was great to see you all in MN this year; it’s been so long since we have seen you!

We continue to think about you guys all the time. I know our situations are very different, but I remember vividly the deep sadness that came a few months after Thomas and Mary Katherine died; there were days when it seemed unbearable. It makes my heart ache to think of other parents having to endure it.

Don’t worry about “how” you are grieving; there is no right or wrong way to do it. Grief is deeply personal and we all know that you are working through it in the way that is right for you.

Take care. We are thinking of you.

-Alice, Dave, Nate & Maggie

]]> By: Kristel http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4920 Thu, 07 Aug 2008 03:31:11 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4920 Kevin will never be forgotten. The impression he made on the lives he touched in the time he was here, well it’s just more than any adult could ever hope to accomplish. I too think of him every day, and when I go to sleep at night, and when I see something that would have made him give me that look, or made him smile in delight. Fridays are hard for all of us, and I understand that.
He would have loved fishing off the dock, paddling in the paddle boat, and steering the pontoon boat, like Keaton got to do with Uncle James. What a great vacation!, with a hole, we all felt. He should have been there, and instead, we all had a hole in our heart. I love my family, my children and their children. I will always include this wonderful, delightful and amazing little one when someone says, “how many grandchildren do you have?” Because he is always with me, alive in my heart, my life, and I look forward to seeing him again. Grandma Kristel

]]> By: Joanna http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4765 Wed, 06 Aug 2008 01:58:46 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4765 I love the picture you posted of Kevin from the BIX last year. It is one of my favorites. He was such a happy carefree guy unlike his scowly cousin Keaton. I was glad you had Emily run the BIX this year. It was nice to see her enjoying a sport we know her dad is so good at. I could not enter Keaton because I knew it would be too sad and painful for me to stand in line with him and not have Dawn and Kevin with us. That was such a wonderful day last year! I will never forget it! It just makes me very sad that we wont have moments like that with the two boys together anymore. Keaton still talks about Kevin often, and we look at pictures of him all the time. It helps all of us to heal by talking about him. I know you know how much we love and care about you. You are doing well, but please remember, we are always here for you when you need us! Please continue to share your writing and updates with us as it helps us all heal.
Love,
Joanna, Brent, and Keaton

]]> By: Shel http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4692 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 14:26:40 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4692 Thanks for the update and all the pictures.

]]> By: Mona http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4482 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 19:57:34 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4482 I love reading your writing Matt, you share your feelings & thoughts in such a special way. Kevin reminded us so much of you when you were little, you also were such a gentle little guy & so easy to have around – so he really was like a miniature you. It’s hard to see you & Dawn & Emily go through so much heartache – but I see you taking care of your family & I’m very proud of the husband & dad that you are.

I can relate to you talking to Kevin, I don’t talk out loud, but I have found myself talking to him. The other day I was missing him & the thought came that I should just write a letter to him & I think I’d feel better. All the goodness we experienced with Kevin in our lives will always be with us. I don’t think a broken heart can be fixed, but I pray & ask God to patch your hearts so the pain is bearable.

]]> By: Jeni http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4449 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 17:26:59 +0000 http://kevinmatthewkruse.com/2008/08/04/three-months/#comment-4449 Lily and I watched the therapy videos last night. I love hearing Kevin talk and remembering the way he said words and looked around with his big beautiful eyes. His therapist obviously knew him well and her interactions with him were so special.

I have no idea how hard it is for you and Dawn every day. I can’t imagine the emptiness you feel. During our vacation to Colorado I was overcome with sadness when I picked out a souvenir for Emily but not for Kevin. As friends of Kevin, Nathan and I talk about our sadness and emptiness without that special little guy. We miss him.

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